Eight secrets of a long and happy life
What unites the happiest people on Earth? Recently, a study was conducted in which scientists analyzed common signs of people who are satisfied with their lives and consider themselves happy. Let us consider these features in more detail.
Are you surprised? In the first place on our list is not success and material wealth, not high intelligence and even not beloved highly paid work.
Numerous studies have shown that it is strong relationships with a partner and social connections that make people happy. And this rule applies throughout life.
American scientists conducted a study in which they watched a group of men throughout their lives until they were 80 years old. Happier were those people who had warm relationships with family and other people. The study showed that the ability to love and feel love was the only factor in the well-being of people aged 80. In other words, warm communication with family and friends is the key to happiness and longevity.
2. Help others
The American scientist Howard Friedman, who conducted a multi-year study on happiness and longevity, came to the conclusion that social connections and helping others are much more important than a healthy lifestyle. It is worth noting that the key to happiness and longevity is precisely helping others, and not accepting help from them. In fact, dependence on the help of others has a negative effect on human happiness. Joy on the face of the people you help brings joy to yourself.
3. Activities that you love and that you do well
The study also found that people who work hard often have a high life expectancy. This may seem strange, given the widespread belief that for happiness it is necessary to avoid stress in every possible way, not to take difficulties to heart and keep calm. Of course, chronic stress and overwork are harmful to health, but for a long and happy life, scientists recommend doing interesting work. The study said that people who build careers in an area that interests them live longer. Do what interests you and what works best for you.
4. Happy childhood
The happiest people on Earth had a happy childhood and warm relationships with family. This is the key to optimism and happiness throughout life. It follows that the divorce of parents is a negative factor for the child. The study said that people who survived the divorce of their parents in childhood often die early – an average of 5 years earlier than their peers. Also, the divorce of parents causes people to smoke and alcohol. Such people, on average, are less educated, less likely to succeed in their careers, and are more prone to divorce. We cannot change our own childhood, but we must remember this when raising our own children.
5. Refusal of work that we do not like
Scientists also believe that for happiness and satisfaction with life, you should abandon work that does not bring us pleasure. If you go to work every day as a burden, you should change it as quickly as possible. After devoting many years to work that you don’t love, you begin to think that you have made a big mistake in your life, and you regret it. However, before changing a job, you should think about what it gives you (for example, a high salary or social status) and whether you can quickly find an equivalent job.
6. Give, but without prejudice to yourself
As you know, the secret of happiness is to give more than receive. But if your desire to give turns into sacrifice, it leads to opposite results. Studies show that people who tend to give excessively without caring about their own needs are often manipulated by others. This is manifested both at work and in family life. The secret to a happy life is to keep balance.
Scientists say that happy people spend on average 2 hours a week (i.e. 100 hours a year). This allows them to save enough time and energy for family life and achieving personal life goals. It is also important that helping others and charity are not at the expense of things that are important to you both materially and in terms of time spent.
7. Feeling of gratitude
American scientist Robert Emmons conducted a study on the feeling of gratitude. He found that people who feel grateful for what other people take for granted (for example, a beautiful sunset or just that they are alive) are 25% happier than others. This discovery is confirmed by other studies. So, a group of American scientists from the University of Miami found that people who thought they had a blessing from above felt generally better. They showed greater physical activity and were less likely to get sick than those who took everyday things and events for granted.