Hyperopeca dooms the child to life failures
More and more studies confirm that children who are overly tutelized by their parents tend to avoid risk, have difficulty making decisions and are unable to succeed in life. They also do not know how to cope with life’s difficulties. In other words, they are too susceptible to disappointment, and the slightest manifestations of frustration unsettle them.
Actions and intentions of guardianship parents
Often, custodial parents believe that they do everything for the sake of the child. They want him to have all the best that life can give, and protect him from “tough”, “difficult” and “undesirable” circumstances.
Hyperprotective children are not free to do anything like their peers. Parents believe that uncontrolled activities are harmful to the child. Such children do not have household chores, because parents believe that in this way they deprive them of a carefree childhood.
Solving all problems instead of a child
Guardianship parents have their own ways of interfering in the life of the child. They solve his problems, which he could handle himself. They treat the child as a small one, making him feel his inability to plan his actions himself. In fact, guardianship parents make their children dependent and infantile.
Relations with teachers
Teachers are usually unhappy with such children. Often, teachers are forced to perform parental functions, for example, tie the child with shoelaces and perform other actions instead.
Many teachers are anxious to say that children of guardianship parents are behind their peers in social and emotional development, their survival skills are poorly developed.
Children subject to excessive custody also have learning difficulties. They expect teachers to pamper them just like their parents, and they are surprised that they are treated like the rest. Such children cannot adapt to the school atmosphere, where they need a little independence.
Children of guardians are often behind developmental peers. Teachers note their strong dependence on others. Such children often require that they be helped in almost everything. But if there are many children in the classroom, the teacher does not have time to individually devote time to each student. In other words, the children of the guardianship parents give teachers a lot of trouble.
The feeling that everyone needs a child
Because of the peculiarities of upbringing, children of guardianship parents tend to think that they owe everything to them and they can do whatever they want. They were not accustomed to the fact that they are not the center of the universe, and they must learn to find a common language with others. Since such children think that they are special, they are upset when the situation is not in their favor.
Light target for bullying
Many children of guardianship parents become victims of bullying because they do not have the social skills necessary to survive in school. School bullies often choose to sacrifice insecure and defenseless children. In other words, self-confident and socially adapted children are not bullied because they can deal with this problem.
Children of guardians are often not respected by their peers. Classmates consider such children to be non-caring.
Hyperprotected children do not know how to refuse and compete. They are dependent on others at an age when independence should gradually develop.
Success in study, failure in communication
Often children of guardianship parents lag behind peers in social development. Of course, if the parents protect the child from all sorts of difficulties, they do not allow them to develop socially, emotionally and mentally. Despite the high marks in the school, such children lack common sense. Other children feel this, and therefore children of guardianship parents are often haunted not only by hooligans, but simply by stronger peers.
Helplessness in life situations
Guardianship parents protect children from life difficulties appropriate to their age. Therefore, a 13-year-old child, subject to parental hyperprotection, acts like children who are several years younger than him. Also, these children are very dependent on their parents, since they are practically not allowed to independently explore their social environment (for example, even in the middle classes, parents can take their children to school or forbid them to participate in school activities).
Treating like children
Children of guardianship parents are often lost amid more free and relaxed peers. While peers explore all the intricacies of adolescent life, the child of the custody of parents is either constantly monitored or is busy with many classes according to the schedule that the parents set for him. They treat a teenager as a child, and not as an independent adult.