How to communicate with annoying parents
Without a doubt, you love your parents. But sometimes you may notice that they become too annoying in their desire to control your every action. Consider several ways to cope with such situations without offending your parents.
Did you know?
First of all, you need to understand that parents are trying to take part in all the affairs of their children for good reasons. Moreover, studies have shown that if parents are involved in every activity of the child and try to help him in everything and give advice, he copes better with the tasks and creates a solid foundation for achieving life goals in the future.
The film “The Cinderella Story” shows how the father wanted his son to become a famous football player, so he trained him from an early age. In turn, the son sought to enter a well-known university, but his father did not support him in this. In the end, when the child faced a difficult choice, he decided to follow his dream and go to university.
There is nothing wrong with the fact that the father wanted to see his son successful. But sometimes such situations come down to the fact that children have to give up their aspirations. Parents need to understand that children cannot be forced to strive for something that they have not achieved in their own life.
At heart, parents always wish their children the best and do everything to ensure that children achieve success in life. However, at the same time, parents are a little aggressive, trying to ensure that the child lives up to their expectations, and this is their mistake. They do not allow the child to take the initiative and interfere in all his affairs – from school to the choice of social circle, clothes, etc. It often happens that parents choose a school for a child who has not yet been born. There is nothing wrong with planning the future of the child, but the child must still make some decisions on his own. Let us consider in more detail how annoying parents can influence a child at different periods of his life and what children can do in such situations without offending their parents.
When children go to school, some parents want to keep abreast of all their affairs. Every day they come to school, monitor who the child is talking to, give the child detailed instructions for any reason, etc. In addition, they write the child in many circles and sections because they want him to succeed in all life spheres.
Decision. Your parents will always remain your parents. They will always wish you all the best and will do their best to give it to you. Respect it. You are still too small to understand how large the universe is and how many unexpected situations can arise in your life. Therefore, let parents make the most important decisions in your life. If you are worried that your parents come to school every day and talk with your teachers, tell them that you have good grades and have nothing to worry about. If your parents enroll you in the football section, in the art and music schools at the same time, say that you do not want to do everything at once and that it interferes with your studies. If talking with parents does not help, you can ask the teacher to explain the situation to your parents.
Study and career
When it comes to educating a child, parents are especially eager. From the first years of his life, they plan in which school and university the child will study. Undoubtedly, they do it well-intentioned.
Therefore, listen to how your parents see your future. They always have a few options. This can be confusing. However, sometimes it happens that the child has his own desires that differ from the desires of the parents. Sometimes parents do not even take into account the desires of the child and force him to obey.
Decision. First of all, listen to your parents’ plans for your education. If this does not match your desires, talk to your parents about it. Respect their opinions, but put your desires first. Let your parents know what you want to do and why. You probably wanted to achieve something many times, but you ran into problems that prevented you. You can talk about this with your parents, ask them for help. This will make them feel fit. Thus, dialogue is the best way out of such situations, thanks to which parents will understand what you are striving for and will be able to help you.
Relationships and marriage
The situation becomes quite complicated when annoying parents insist on whom you enter into a relationship with or do not accept your choice. Or, for example, they may interfere with the preparation of your wedding. Their desire to organize a wedding can lead to the fact that they want to do everything on their own, even if you have a different opinion on this matter. Such situations are very painful and often lead to conflicts.
Decision. Choosing a life partner is completely your choice. But, if your parents are persistent in this matter, calmly listen to them.