The art of enjoying the moment
How often do you say the phrase: “I can’t wait …”, “Rather …”? Do you wake up on Monday morning with the thought: “Hurry up Friday”? When you feel overworked, do you think, “I can’t wait for a vacation”?
Many of us have such thoughts from time to time. The same thing happens with young parents after giving birth. You can often hear from them: “I can’t wait until he starts to walk”, “I can’t wait until he starts eating solid food” or “Rather, he learned to do it on his own.”
The parenting process is so amazing and interesting that parents look forward to the next stage. On the other hand, certain stages in the development of a child can be quite difficult and debilitating, so that parents cannot wait for them to finish. In such cases, it is difficult to maintain patience and not to rush until the child outgrows a difficult period. But the next stage is sure to come.
However, parents need to make efforts so as not to rush and enjoy what is happening with the child at the moment. At any age, there are advantages and amazing moments, the main thing is to be able to see them.
Sooner or later, parents are surprised to notice how fast time flies and how fast children grow. And now they already want time to slow down. The way out of this dilemma is quite obvious – do not rush and enjoy the present moment. It sounds pretty simple, but how to do it in real life? Consider a few recommendations.
Pay enough attention to family life. Set aside all things and enjoy the time you spend with your family. A busy schedule, children’s studies and extracurricular activities take away all your free time. Every day passes in a whirlwind of urgent affairs. And probably nothing can be done about it. But we have a weekend. Devote these two days to yourself and your family. Do not do any work affairs. You may feel guilty for dropping out of all work for two days, but this is exactly what you need in order to enjoy the present moment and spend time with your family.
Take on less work. Do not exhaust yourself every day with gym classes or other things. Only do what pleases you. Also, do not enroll your child in all sections, music and art schools that are nearby. Do not do something just because other parents do it. If the child does not like any activity, do not insist.
Do not compete with other parents in raising a child. Go your own way. It is not worth the time or your nerves. It’s okay if the neighbor’s child at the age of one already knows the alphabet, but your child doesn’t. The time will come – and your child will also learn it. Remain yourself and let yourself and your child remain.
Do not run ahead. Of course, you should plan a lot in your life, but try to focus on the present moment as much as possible. If a child is planning to go to school in the fall, do not buy school supplies in May, even if they cost you less. Stay in the present – this will save you from many bad habits.
Be here and now physically and emotionally. Every day we have to do a thousand different things. And this makes it difficult to devote time to the family and enjoy the present moment. Therefore, it should be possible to slow down and reduce the number of daily activities. Of course, it is hardly possible to completely do this. But you can, for example, turn off your mobile phone when you have dinner with your family or spend time with your children. So you can devote some time only to them. For children, such moments are extremely important (it is worth remembering that for parents, time spent with children is equally important).
Children learn everything from our example. And if we learn to slow down and enjoy the present moment, it will be a good lesson for our children. When we constantly knock down, trying to do many things at once, the children see this and begin to take such a lifestyle for granted. Be here and now and let the child rejoice at who he is at the moment.
And remember: children appreciate the time they spend with you. You may not even think about it, but even during family trips to interesting places, children usually remember exactly what they spent this time with you, and not the places or sights themselves. Ordinary things and moments when we look at the world around us simply bring us the greatest pleasure and are remembered for a lifetime. No matter where we go and what we do, the main thing is that we do it together with people close to us.
What seems small and insignificant to us parents seems grandiose to children. And this will not always be the case: as they grow older, children will increasingly share your point of view. Therefore, do not rush and enjoy the wonderful moments of life as much as possible.